tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14457001.post113213395070507614..comments2024-01-31T09:33:05.146-08:00Comments on Two World Collision: The Biggest LoserErichttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03948061964482528393noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14457001.post-1132377170803367722005-11-18T21:12:00.000-08:002005-11-18T21:12:00.000-08:00Your blog is great.Your blog is great.Ryanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06808052799022283270noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14457001.post-1132344521679986212005-11-18T12:08:00.000-08:002005-11-18T12:08:00.000-08:00I'm one of those lucky people who discovered that ...I'm one of those lucky people who discovered that I actually <I>did</I> (do) have a thryoid condition -- and medication helped my weight begin to melt, and that gave me the incentive to do the other things -- eat right and exercise at least a reasonable amount. I don't know why I should have been surprised that doing what the experts said to do would actually work. Duh!<BR/><BR/>One thing that also helped was one of my gay friends who is male-model handsome. He always smiles when he sees me and calls me, "Doll" and compliments what I am wearing or how I am looking. AND he didn't start this after I had dropped about 80 pounds -- he was already doing it because he saw beyond the (large) surface. Not only is he good-looking <I>on</I> the outside, he is looking <I>for</I> good <I>from</I> the inside.<BR/><BR/>Talk about a Doll!<BR/><BR/>PS-- I think Asians are <I>hot</I>!Michael Doddhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00942287172727040371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14457001.post-1132194873983320832005-11-16T18:34:00.000-08:002005-11-16T18:34:00.000-08:00I *knew* I liked you Eric :) I looooove The Bigge...I *knew* I liked you Eric :) I looooove The Biggest Loser, I find it inspiring as a very fluffy mama LOL.<BR/><BR/>And yes, Bob is cute (I even got an email from him once, VERY nice--I had posted some things on an AOL TBL board).<BR/><BR/>Personally I don't think there is anything wrong with taking care of your body and taking pride in your appearance--just so long as it doesn't go overboard.<BR/><BR/>Congrats on such great progress :)The Rainbow Zebrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10556423049067122472noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14457001.post-1132164951873720812005-11-16T10:15:00.000-08:002005-11-16T10:15:00.000-08:00Eric,Vanity is one of the seven deadly sins!It may...Eric,<BR/><BR/>Vanity is one of the seven deadly sins!<BR/><BR/>It may not compromise individual salvation, but it can lead to an arrested spiritual development. The pressure to be physically attractive in the Gay community is enormous. Yes, it really does extend to certain sectors of our own Church. The reasons for this, such people are still a work in progress as we all are. <BR/><BR/>There was a time in my life where I used to compensate for my own feelings of inadequacy by achieving in areas where I can do something about. Academic or professional success, essentially over achieving, however it comes with an eventual price. Several years ago I took my first exam in an important class, when sitting down in front of the PC my mind went blank and botched the test! Fortunately, my professor noticed and was concerned. I ended up in therapy for two years after the incident. My experience is not unique! <BR/><BR/>General George S. Patton quoted “Glory is always fleeting”, once a goal or achievement is complete is feels real great but only temporary. Then the feelings of self loathing come back. I believe this is something we inherited from Adam. You can learn to live with inadequacy or self loathing but can’t get over it and no one is immune.<BR/><BR/>Thank the Lord we have the ability to take the moral high ground and rise above the superficial ness of our society. We’re still human and will always find certain men physically attractive no matter what their life circumstances may be. However, it doesn’t have to dominate who we are in Christ. It should not be our eternity!<BR/> <BR/>When journeying through this temporal life on earth one can live a life of quiet desperation. Someone may think of themselves as attractive and affirmed by others. They’ll always be another that is better looking getting more attention. A person may work hard at making lots of money just to be king of the financial mountain. They’ll always be someone else who makes more money with less effort. No matter how much academic success you’ve achieve, they’ll always be better educated people than yourself. <BR/><BR/>The best thing we can do is to be grateful for what we have in Christ. <BR/><BR/>DaveAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14457001.post-1132161877871243712005-11-16T09:24:00.000-08:002005-11-16T09:24:00.000-08:00juliabohemian - actually, i acknowledged that this...<B>juliabohemian</B> - actually, i acknowledged that this pressure to look attractive <B>is</B> common for both gay and straight alike - i was just pointing out that it's <B>definitely</B> there in <I>some</I> gay spheres. <BR/><BR/>As a gay man, i'm discovering that the pressure i sometimes feel is similar to the pressure that some straight women must feel. It may not be right, but the pressure is there for those of us who want to attract a guy. I would be interested to know if the pressure is also there for straight men or for lesbians.<BR/><BR/><B>geek_boi</B> - argh! huh? well, whether or not we are 160, 190, or 250 pounds, none of us will be happy until we first resolve to be able to look in the mirror and realize that we are worth being loved - regardless of our physical appearance. i think that self-image needs to be addressed first on the inside. it is then, that we make an individual (and perhaps less important) choice to address it on the outside - physically - for whatever the reason - be it for health or for hotness. I'm learning that confidence is everything (in the romantic/dating context). I've found myself attracted to incredibly joyful and large individuals - both male and female. No need to smash all the mirrors in your house buddy!<BR/><BR/><B>E</B> - boy am i glad you relate! i think this is a relevant issue for gay men who want to be noticed by other gay men. <BR/><BR/>I think you hit on something there - a fear of rejection. This can lead to all sorts of unhealthy extremes. <BR/><BR/>also, we'd have to really be honest with ourselves in this kind of a sensitive discussion - would <I>we</I> be willing to give another person a "fair shake" if he or she isn't our ideal physically?<BR/><BR/>This is just a <B>general statement</B> i'm making right now but i think that while there is pressure to look attractive, there's also pressure to not verbalize the desire to be attractive and to simply be content with <I>who</I> we are.<BR/><BR/>The pressure to look attractive is an obvious societal flaw (i say this in the American context), but sometimes we're condemned for just not being happy with our physical appearance. It sounds great to say "just be happy" but it's not that simple for those of us who are or have been heavy because we don't "feel" happy. I would suppose that this is consistent for some light people who can't seem to gain weight. For so long, we've wanted to look different. <BR/><BR/>I know this is a sensitive and tough topic. Please know that my intent is not to cause anyone to feel worse about their present reality, but rather to say that we each need to determine what it is that will make us happy. For some, a decision to be content is enough to raise confidence. For others, a decision to make refinements in our physical appearance will raise confidence. <BR/><BR/>Regardless, what I do know is that we are better off having an attractive character. Let's remember that God loves us not because we are physically attractive but because He simply does. Physical appearance is temporary and attractiveness is relative.Erichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03948061964482528393noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14457001.post-1132156135235907412005-11-16T07:48:00.000-08:002005-11-16T07:48:00.000-08:00I know what you mean. The weight I'm at would act...I know what you mean. The weight I'm at would actually be just about right for me if I could replace my spare tire with some extra muscle mass. And so I continually kick myself for not having a flat stomach, or because my face is too round, my hair is too gray, etc.<BR/><BR/>And yet, in reality, if someone is so fixated on physical perfection that they would reject me for not looking like Christian Bale, what hope would we really have of ever establishing a meaningful relationship?<BR/><BR/>And then, of course, there's the flip side of that - am I willing to give someone who falls short of the supermodel ideal a fair shake? Unfortunately the answer is only sometimes yes...Eugenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05431724892247691165noreply@blogger.com