tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14457001.post476529277355248711..comments2024-01-31T09:33:05.146-08:00Comments on Two World Collision: Authentic Expressions of LoveErichttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03948061964482528393noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14457001.post-51667691619389153942007-10-31T17:08:00.000-07:002007-10-31T17:08:00.000-07:00Hooray for follow up posts!I appreciate your thoug...Hooray for follow up posts!<BR/><BR/>I appreciate your thoughts (as if you didn't already know that), and I think we have similar views on this subject. I've been thinking about this sex thing over the past 24 hours as during a conversation with my mom yesterday, she asked me what I thought about sex before marriage (or a lifelong commitment). I didn't go into much detail, by any stretch, but it was a reminder that there does exist within my own mind a mental gap between what it means to have sex with someone you love, and what it means to have sex with someone you’ve committed your life to. This is due in part to the fact that I do not view the institution of marriage in itself as a holy union, but instead, any holiness that exists I see as being rooted in the union that exists between the two people who have pursued the path of a life long commitment to one another, as opposed to the act of getting married. I do not believe that God is sitting on the throne saying “WAAAIIITTT A MINUTE! Where’s the paperwork!?” when it comes to two people’s desire to spend their lives together. <BR/><BR/>That being said, the question for me is then, is sex with someone you love but do not yet know that you’ll spend your life with, wrong? If so, why? If you truly believe that you’re in love with someone, then the act of having sex (or making love) is being done out of, and as an expression of, love. Therefore, why is it any less significant (or any more “wrong” given my thoughts on marriage) than sex in a relationship where love exists and where the conscious decision has been made to spend your lives together? By the same token, if love truly does exist, so much so that sex is on the table, then why NOT make the decision to spend your lives together in the first place? If that decision hasn’t been made, then why NOT wait? Perhaps the issue is not sex itself, but the inability to understand sex enough to put it in its proper place. <BR/><BR/>Obviously this all excludes various other viewpoints on the sex-love equation (i.e. “fun buddy” situations with “good friends”, etc). Those fit into another category in my head. <BR/><BR/>Sorry for the long comment! :-/<BR/><BR/>- BryanBryanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16726803290735053143noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14457001.post-62975901449238709152007-10-29T09:28:00.000-07:002007-10-29T09:28:00.000-07:00I like the idea of not having, but learning. Thank...I like the idea of not having, but learning. Thanks for these reflections.Bill Rogershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08093586317659933419noreply@blogger.com